About This Blog

 In the summer of 2021, a friend and I agreed to make dating profiles and actively start dating people again after long breaks caused by busy schedules, general lack of interest, and a global pandemic. I decided to go one step further and create a weekly blog to track my thoughts on the experience. 

On top of re-entering the dating scene, I moved back to my home state of Minnesota from Texas at the same time. This was guaranteed to bring back memories, remind me of old habits, and create opportunities to compare how Minnesota and I have changed over the last five years. 

I process changes and events best through writing, so mainly this blog is for me. If anyone else finds something of value in it, even better.

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